They always say, "just give it a try."
But that is not their brain talking. That is their emotions.
The truth of the matter, life is no cheap business. The stakes are high, we just choose not to believe it. The risks are great, we just choose to ignore it. All for experience's sake, so we can learn to get back bigger, better, bolder, when the future comes knocking at your door. And this can be right, but there is a flaw.
The fallacy with the mindset of the current generation is that they believe in the gift of second chance. A new hope, somehow a divine gift that once something happens, there is another opportunity to revisit the situation, to somehow make amends to the way someone responds to a similar situation, to make a change to the way things turn out, so that we learn how to get better. But that does not happen. We are constantly influenced by the people around us, by the things we adore, by the trauma of our past experiences and hurt. Suicides are rampant as someone dear to their heart is lost, both literally and metaphorically. Murder is a way out for those who are trapped with the pre-existing belief that penance is the only solution, that something can be done to somehow thwart the outcome, or change the course of history. More often than not, depression floats over people's heads like the wind, and is commonly passed as attention seeking or deemed downright insincere, despite the stark reality of it.
When there is the belief of a second chance, there is a belief of a third. There is a belief of a fourth. The vicious cycle repeats, and that is why perfection is never achieved. Perfection is something impossible to be grasped, because we don't strive for it in the first place. Rather, we rely on the fact that we will receive a second chance, and therefore give a half-hearted slipshod attempt on the first occurrence.
The truth is, second chances do occur. Second chances do exist. And in a myriad of instances, second chances truly do give us a release, a renewal, a rebirth. But second chances can also give is a sense of misdirection. Second chances can lead us to believe that we do not have to put in our best effort at the first initiative, and can often lead us to become slack in snatching a firm grasp at the first occurrence of an opportune moment, and it is that slack behaviour and mentality that we have to guard against. So why not, for a first, let go of the mindset led astray, and shoot for perfection on your first attempt? Make as few mistakes as you can, and learn hard from each one.
You might say, well it is impossible to be awarded perfection, granted our disheveled human nature. But perfection in its essence is subjective. It is a construct of the human mind to describe a situation where all the desired elements, qualities, and characteristics are present. When the desirable outcome, solutions, and features of something is attained, then perfection is achieved. Under that light, perfection however, must be attained, not awarded. You will never earn it unless you work towards it, with the determination of a world-class athlete. Like the athlete, he or she settles for no less than the grand prize, and to stand proud and strong at the top of the podium, for all the world to see. So like an athlete, make every day worthy of achieving the grand prize. Take every moment as solemnly as you possibly can. Perfection cannot be achieved whilst lying down on a couch. You have to do something about it, you have to make a conscious decision to get up and go. To get up and truly live life.
Nothing great in this world is achieved alone. Social interaction is a sacrosanct aspect of our humanity. To live with each other is a virtue, to harmoniously work together to achieve a common goal is a gift. Accountability amongst each other is frequently overlooked, despite the deeply encouraging and broadly enriching benefits it has to offer, one of which holds cathartic value. Not everyone shares experiences with each other, but empathy is but one of the greatest skills that humankind can nurture and possess. And through the variety of experiences, accountability triumphs.
So the next time you take a girl under your arm or stand by a boy's side, think about what you are doing. Think about the future that beholds the both of you. Think about the experiences that are in store for the both of you. Are they going to be pleasant? Are they meant to be remembered for generations? Are they what you would want to be known for? Are they what you have ever dreamed of, and what you've ever hoped for? Think about the living, breathing, bundle of life beside you. And strive, sparing no ounce of effort, to obtain the highest standards of perfection that you can ever dream of getting, right from the very beginning. Stand bold and courageous, firm and strong like a soldier. For second chances appear and reappear, but experiences are never forgotten.
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